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Social skills for children and social skills in adulthood are something everyone needs to get on in life.  Without them you will be lonely and wonder why everyone else is having a good life but you are not.  With them you will find it easy to make friends, work in teams and get on with neighbours.  Social skills for children are therefore incredibly important aspects to be building as they grow up.  The more they learn how to make friends and get along with other people in the family or the class and school the easier their adult life is going to be.  Let’s look at building social skills for children for a minute.

 

Social skills for children need to be taught.  There is no other way round it.  They are not born with them and the easiest way to help them develop social skills is to show them by being a good example.  In fact the easiest way to teach anyone anything is to be their ‘model’ so all they need to do is copy you.  However a bit more than being a social skills model is necessary when you build social skills in children.   You also need to be coaching them.  Whenever they are having an exchange with anyone – with you, a friend, their brother, grandmother or shop assistant..... you have an opportunity to gently coach and encourage them.  Give them feedback on how well they managed their social skills in conversation.  Take care to praise them for what they are doing well and make sure that you give them 3 pieces of positive praise for every one piece of ‘correction’ you give them.  That is the success formula for building self esteem.  There is more about that on our building self esteem page click here.  Remember that social skills in children count for at least one third of their self esteem level.

 

Social skills for adults are also developable.  If for some reason you did not have the best models while you were growing up you can change now.  All it needs is practice and practice and then a bit more practice.  Like building social skills for children it is really helpful for adults to find someone whose social skills they admire and see as being successful.  Copy them!  Look at what they are doing and saying and how they are doing it.  Practice the next time you have a chance.  Just take one thing – maybe the way your social skills model kept really good eye contact, or the words they used when they started up a conversation with someone new.  Try it out.  See what happens.  Try it again with the next person until you are comfortable and have found your own way to do it.

 

Social skills for children and social skills for adults are the most important skills you will ever learn and are vital for your self esteem levels.  Use this site as a starting point for developing your social skills and those of your children.